I saw this video in my news feed and debated watching it. I didn’t know what to expect, as the last images I had in my mind of Monica Lewinsky were the ones the media imprinted in my brain after the news of her affair with Clinton broke out.
Listening to her share her story, as a 22 year old girl who fell in love, my heart sank as she described her memories and experiences of the aftermath. Twenties are hard enough without the added feelings of desperate isolation, fear, hurt and yes, shame. Shame, the one emotion that has the potential to ruin someone’s life; the feeling that had her wishing she could just “disintegrate”. A pretty powerful word for a young person (or any person for that matter) to have to feel.
There were so many things about her speech that impacted me, and reminded me of how important it is to be surrounded by people who love you. To have people who, when you are so far removed from your true self, will remind you of exactly who you are. People who mirror to you daily, your beauty, your light and your love. Having that support is literally life-saving, because without it, shame wins.
I know I was one of those people who secretly judged her and got caught up in the drama that the media created. I remember tuning in to the news broadcasts and reading the articles. Having watched her speech today, I regret partaking in any of that, because the reality is, she is human. We are all human. And no human should be subject to humiliation, shame and hate. We are hard enough on ourselves that we don’t need others (in her case it was practically the entire the world), reinforcing the negative thoughts.
Today’s reminder: Don’t judge others because you sin differently. We are all human.
Interested in watching the speech? Click link below.